It makes him vulnerable and it makes you seem like a sympathetic person trying to understand what he’s going through.īy playing the sibling card, you are moving the night from passionate love to a more tender one. It takes away from the heat that one-night stands are supposed to have - in fact, it’s the ONLY thing it’s supposed to have. You, subconsciously (and consciously if you’re a manipulative bitch) know the intimacy of sibling relationships and use it as leverage against him. …Which is problematic in one-night stands simply because you want him to open up to you. This is under the premise that all families are messed up, everyone having problems with each other, but being the dysfunctional trope we all are, we all suck it up in the end and smile during family reunions. You grow up together with your brothers and sisters, you quarrel, you hate each other, you pull each other’s hair, but you ultimately love each other. Sibling relationships are one of the most complicated in the world. If you tell your best friend what color his fucking belt was and analyzing what that could possibly mean, you have a problem, part of it is narcissism, part of it is being in denial that it’s just a one-night physical thing. If you can’t wait until Friday night drinks to talk about him, it’s more than a one-night stand. And, no, it doesn’t matter if it’s three in the morning, she has nothing better to do than keep tabs on your sex life. …Which is problematic in a one-night stand when after the act itself you’re just dying to grab your phone and text your best friend and spill every single sordid and insignificant detail. (Please admit it, even just a teeny-tiny percent is because of selfish motivations.) We all do it, we all sleep around, and talk about it over a round of Cosmopolitans, because, hey, we’re women from the 90’s and we think we’re so radical. A small part of the reason we actually sleep around is to show our frenemies we’re hotter than them. When you’re wondering why the best lay of your life came from a guy who you just randomly picked up while he was buying vinegar, it probably isn’t and you probably just want it to be. If you record what happened, it would probably be a lot of hair and snorts and “where’s the condom?” Until you find yourself retelling the story in your head, picturing the entire scene, only this time, there are rose petals and incense and the Casanova of Casanovas, smiling at you, while his long hair flows through the wind. Sure, you might get lucky every now and then and get a stallion, but most of the time, it’s forgettable. …Which is problematic in a one-night stand because chances are the sex is mediocre (at best) 90% of the time. And, hey, welcome to how the real world has sex outside films. Most of the time, it’s just fluids dripping and limbs you’re unsure of where to put. You have opened yourself to vulnerability and to kiss someone is to let that person be part of you again, making you, if only for a short time, whole. If you kiss someone after you got what you’ve wanted, it’s like bluffing in poker when all cards are already revealed. You have tangled with each other bodies, explored every single crevice you thought you have (and more!) Now, why am I being so conservative here about saying good-bye?īecause one-night stands are never about connecting emotionally. …Which is problematic in a one-night stand, especially when you’re saying good-bye.
#PLAY ONE NIGHT STAND GAME FREE#
However, and feel free to call me old-fashioned and hypocritical here, I do believe that kisses are quite special and we can all learn about another person from the way they kiss.
This day and age, it more or less seems like a precursor towards the wonderful world of sex. I begin with the big and most obvious one. So, dear reader, here are ten signs that your one-night stand means more to you than it should be: 1. Ideally, it may be an appealing concept but some people may not be able to detach feelings derived from the bedroom from the feelings derived to the person. Sadly, not everyone has the emotional capacity to engage in such. You enjoy each other’s bodies but not each other. Who cares, really? As long as we’re safe, we’re unattached, it’s fun and it’s probably the most exercise I get in a week.
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